What Helps (and What Doesn’t)

This page exists to clarify something many people struggle with under pressure:
Why certain things that seem helpful can quietly make things worse — and why support often fails when it’s most needed.

It’s not about doing things “right.”

It’s about understanding how capacity works when someone is overwhelmed, and why less is often safer than more.

• High-level distinctions between what tends to reduce pressure and what often increases it
   
• Clarification around common misunderstandings about coping, healing, and “pushing through”
   
• Context for why well-intended advice can add strain instead of relief
   
• Orientation around pacing, timing, and doing less — not more
   
• Notes relevant to people trying to support someone who is overwhelmed
   

This page focuses on pattern recognition, not instructions.

 From here, you’ll be able to:

• Explore deeper explanations of why certain approaches backfire
   
• Learn how capacity, timing, and pressure interact
   
• Find language that supports boundaries without guilt
   
• Move toward practical examples when you’re ready
   

Nothing here requires action.
This page is meant to make later choices clearer — not to demand change.